Ruling on marrying or socializing with A Shi'aa
Ruling on marrying or socializing with A Shi'aa
What do the Islamic Scholars Muftis Of Shariyah say about the below mentioned situation :
Our younger brother's marriage had been delaying from a very long time ( he's 35) we have seen multiple match for him but we were not able to patch with any of them all the people we have met usually deny at the last moment so after performing a ritual we have found one woman and her family have agreed to proceed the relation with our family the brief condition of women's family is as follows:
Father (Baqir Ali Mirza) due to severe paralyze has been bedridden for many past years lying motionlessly on his bed ,
Her elder brother had pursued MBA but now he is a psychiatric patient and had been admitted in a mental hospital, younger brother is a servant in one of the hotel at Canada, rest there are 4 sisters in the family one is doctor (divorcee )the other 3 are unmarried , the mother of the women is deep rooted Shia but the mind of the children's is a mixture of Islam and shiaism , this much depriving family it is. They have proposed to us that the Imam (Qazi) will be the Shia. According to our brother this women will leave all her beliefs or the rituals or gatherings she had been participating earlier, Respected Mufti Sahab I want to seek your guidance about the following
1. Can we all or specially I attend this marriage or not?
2. Is this marriage valid on the basis that she will leave her beliefs after marriage (as already it is very late for his marriage )
3. Is it mentioned in Ahadees Mubaraka; Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam (Peace be upon him)said the one who curse or say bad about companions of prophet Muhammad ﷺ that person is not worthy of keeping relations with , getting socializing with him or eating with him.
4. If it is not right to attend my brothers marriage then what is the advice regarding abandoning relations with him
5. Can I take my wife or children with him if I am attending the marriage
6. Likewise my father have given me invitation card to give it to my father-in-law while obeying my father can I give this card to my father-in-law will it be right ?
7. As already my brother's marriage have been delayed so much so while taking all different perspective if I start to show my disagreement all the family members will start cursing me , Which is why all the family members from the groom side are participating only as the necessity, please guide me that what should I do ?
Answer 1.You should not attend this marriage ceremony .
2. As the beliefs of the women is of Shia then the marriage is not valid. First you should inform the women about all the false beliefs and idiologies of Shia and ask her to repent and when the women agrees wholeheartedly about all these things then you can get your brother married to her.
3. It's not permissible for Keeping relationship with such a person who curse Sahaba Ikram Radi Allahu Anjum Ajmaeem (Naozubillah)
4. This is not abandoning relations but prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: You cannot disobey Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala just to keep the honour of a person( that is pleaseing Creator is more important then pleasing his creations )
5. Neither you should go no you should allow your family
6. Distributing invitation card of this family is not permissible because this marriage is not permissible then how comes its invitation or it's participation will be right
7. How could it be right when you displeased Allah subhanallah by pleasing some brothers and sisters
وتعاونواعلى البر والتقوى ولا تعاونوا على الاثم والعدوان: وتعاونوا على البر اي على امتثال امر الله تعالى: والتقوى اي الانتهاء عما نهى عنه كي يتقي نفسه عن عذاب الله ولا تعاونوا على الاثم والعدوان يعني لا تعاونوا على ارتكاب لمنھیات:
Tafsir Mazhari: Volume 3, Page 48
نعم لا شك في تكفير من قذف السيدة عائشةؓ او انكر صحبة الصديقؓ او اعتقد الوهية في عليؓ او ان جبرائيل غلط في الوحي او نحو ذلك من الكفر الصريح المخالف للقران ولكن لو تاب تقبل توبته:
Al-Durr al-Mukhtar: Volume 3, Page 321
الرافضی اذا كان يسب الشيخينؓ ويلعنهما والعياذ بالله فهو كافر:
Al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya (Hidayah): Volume 2, Page 266
وفي جامع الجامع وكذا الرافضة التي رأت تفضيل ابي بكرؓ وعمرؓ اما تحب علياؓ اما لو فضلت علياؓ ولم تراه صاحبا وتراه نبيا او شريكا لا لانها كافرة لا ملة لها:
Al-Tatar Khaniyya: Volume 3, Page 11
لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق:
Tafsir Mazhari: Volume 7, Page 263
عن ابی سعيدؓ انه سمع رسول اللهﷺ يقول لا تصاحب الا مؤمنا ولا ياكل طعامك الاتقى اي المراد ان لا يألف بغير النقى فان الصحبة مؤثرة في اصلاحا لحال وافساده:
Volume 2, Page 515
Irshad al-Mufteen: Volume 1, Page 490